14-Year-Old Girl Sues Family To Stop Abortion

A 14-year-old girl in Corpus Christi, TX, received a temporary restraining order on Dec. 21 to stop her family from forcing her to get an abortion. A state district judge appointed an attorney for the teen and extended the restraining order until Jan. 19, when a hearing will determine whether the order will remain in place for the duration of the girl’s pregnancy.

Thus far, the girl has been represented by Stephen Casey, an attorney for the Austin organization Texas Center for Defense of Life. Family members who appeared in court told the judge the teenage girl was mentally unstable and incapable of caring for a baby.

Casey claims the girl’s cousin is guilty of “assaulting her by grabbing her by the neck, hitting her across the jaw and threatening to beat her if she did not get an abortion.”

There are several disturbing things about this story. First and foremost, that her family members are trying to force her to kill her baby. Second, that the judge in the case has only protected her from these people for two weeks. Third, that the “pro-choice” blogs are staying very quiet about the case. So much for choice!

If the girl were suing her parents to get an abortion, what do you want to bet the anti-lifers would have this kid’s face on a T-shirt already? It’s not choice they are concerned with. If so, they would be standing up for this girl’s right to choose to keep her baby. They don’t care about her right to give birth. They care about her right to abort.

In searching for the pro-abortion response to this case in various blogs — they were remarkably silent — I found a post on Democratic Underground and started rifling through the comments. Here are a couple of the most stomach-turning:

From musette_sf:

they will relentlessly guilt her and brainwash her into self-loathing, and get a new lifetime customer for their phony baloney “post-abortive trauma survivor services” group.
So, to recap, they’ll brainwash her (already have) into keeping a pregnancy that would have better been terminated, for everyone concerned; they”ll steal the baby when the baby is born, and sell it to the highest bidder via the usual human trafficking criminals (aka the “adoption” mills); then, they’ll brainwash her into feeling guilty about it all, because without sufficient victim-blaming, she just might go forward to live a good life for herself without patriarchal misogynistic “approval”. 

If all of that sounds crazy to you, that’s because it is. Based on her user name and the cuckoo-for-Cocoa-Puffs content of her post, I can safely assume that woman is from San Francisco. And before you go all nuts in the comments about how there are sane people in San Francisco, I know this already. But if you are a sane person living in San Francisco, you know good and well you are surrounded by lunatics.

Speaking of lunatics, the following is from a user called Wait_Wut:

This is a serious mess that is being used as a tool by the pro-forced motherhood crowd. Sickening. She’s a child and needs help, not some self-righteous religious zealots telling her that God will provide. He won’t. And, they won’t, either. Once that baby is born, they’ll be on the side that wants to take away her babies right to eat, get an education and live in a heated home with a damned refrigerator.

I assume by “take away her babies right to eat, get an education,” etc., he is referring to people who want to cut government spending. I am one of those people, and of course the first thing I think of when I think of government spending is keeping babies from eating.

I also like the reference to the pro-life movement as “pro-forced motherhood.” This is one of my favorites. The “being forced to give birth” thing. It’s silly enough in most cases, when we’re talking about a woman who had sex with a human man and then acts as though pro-lifers sneaked into her house at night and inseminated her with Republican seed. It’s even more ridiculous to bring up in this case, when the girl wants to keep her baby.

Here’s another one you’ll love from Lance_Boyle:

As long as her family can legally disown her and any financial obligation to her, let her choose. If her choice can legally stick her family with an unwanted burden then they should have a say, too.

How about the simple fact that it was a failure on the part of the parents that this child got pregnant in the first place? Whether it was due to a lack of education, moral guidance, or supervision, their barely post-pubescent daughter got pregnant on their watch. It is arguable that they may be responsible for her and her child. That does not, however, give them the right to force her to kill her baby.

This is the obvious (to anybody with a brain, anyway) end result of a society that insists on sexualizing the very young. We expose children to a media-saturated culture in which even the “family” shows are laissez-faire about premarital sex, act appalled when they get pregnant, and then say they have no choice but to abort because they aren’t responsible enough to parent.

Well, you should have thought about that when you were shoving “Glee” episodes, Beyonce videos, and condoms in your kid’s face.

I don’t know the mental state of this girl, but I do know that she is doing the most responsible thing she could possibly do at this moment, and the most healthy, maternal thing imaginable: protecting her child from people who are trying to kill it.

We can all hope, if only for the obvious lack of familial support, that she chooses adoption for her child. But even if she doesn’t, she will at least have given her baby a chance at life.

Meanwhile, maybe it’s time we think about the messages we send our children. A 14-year-old is no more ready to have an abortion than she is to get pregnant or have sex in the first place. And the bored, postmodern response of “Oh, they’re gonna do it anyway” doesn’t cut it. People are going to do lots of things — murder, rape, steal cars, watch “Jersey Shore.” That doesn’t mean we encourage it, make it easier for them, or even tolerate it.

“They’re gonna do it anyway” is simply a non-argument. There was a time when a 14-year-old girl having sex would have been completely unacceptable. And it happened a lot less. Why? Because it was completely unacceptable.

People are always going to fail to live up to moral standards. That doesn’t mean we stop having them.

The truth is, the best advice to give a 14-year-old about sex is: “Keep it in your pants, or else.” I know all the words for this: antiquated, Paleozoic, silly, unrealistic! It is also 100% effective. Abstinence is the only proven cure for teenage abortions.

Meanwhile, let’s all hope the court does the right thing and protects this girl and her baby.

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Kristen Walker makes people mad on the Internet and sometimes tweets.

  • Anonymous

    My thoughts are, based on the parents behavior, that something more serious is going on besides the abortion issue. This girl appears to have been physically abused the way they were dragging her into the abortion clinic. And…my thoughts are that they are covering up who the father is. Is there incest in the family?  Why else would parents be in a BIG HURRY to get that abortion…and why would they want to kill their own grandchild? Something about this whole thing smells very fishy! A mother protects her child, and the fact that her OWN MOTHER is teaming up with her dad to make her get the abortion makes me wonder. My prayers go out to this girl and I hope her lawyers contact The Justice Foundation to get legal counsel on her rights as a pregnant teen. If any of you know teens or women who are being forced against their will to get an abortion, this organization is trained to handle the situation and help them.

    I hope no violence comes this girl for standing up for her right to not kill her child. An ultrasound should be ordered by the judge for all the relatives and parents to see BEFORE they go making her get an abortion. They will see that it is indeed a HUMAN BEING they are about to force her to pay a dr. to kill (murder for hire)…and I don’t see how getting the abortion can be in her best interest when it is not only going to kill the grandchild, but will surely strain her relationship with her parents for the rest of her life. There will be no “happy” feelings after that abortion. It will not solve any problems but add more to the mix of dysfunctional relationships they seem to be experiencing already. Praying for the wisdom of Solomon on that judge..(and as someone said below, I hope she is in foster care for protection.

  • Paris Powers

    I feel very sorry for the girl involved in this article, but the implications it lays on pro-choice supporters is sickening. We are not pro-abortions-for-everyone-because-we-hate-babies. We are pro-choice. CHOICE, people, CHOICE. If she wants to keep her baby, fine. If she wants to abort, ok. This girl has CHOSEN to carry to term, and her family should be ashamed at what they are trying to do. Furthermore, you commenters who are commenting saying that pro-choice is all about abortion? Yeah, no. Educate yourselves, because you have no idea what you’re talking about. 

  • Paris Powers

    Except abstinence only education has been proven to yield HIGHER teen pregnancy rates then comprehensive sex education. Where are the parents and teachers who are offering proper education to teenagers, hm? Where are the parents and teachers that give enough information to teens about safe sex so that they can make informed decisions about something that’s healthy and natural, instead of using failed scare tactics? Abstinence only sex education doesn’t do shit. 

    • http://www.facebook.com/jeep.obsessed Brooke Mehr

      Who says the “scare tactics” fail? I’m not saying that abstinence-only education is 100% fail-proof, but what is with teenagers? I was raised on knowing that abstinence is key and that it is the only 100% accurate way of avoiding pregnancy. Now, I’m happily married and it was so nice to know that my husband and I both waited. I’m not saying that abstinence-only works for every teenager out there, but it worked for me.

      (This was kind of a random aside, but I couldn’t help it)

      • Anacoluthia

        Pregnancy stats say that. Say that 50% of teenagers will have sex before marriage and 10 % will get pregnant. Insert abstinence-only education – let’s be generous and say it convinces half of those teenagers to wait until marriage. So now 25% of teenagers are having sex before marriage. However, here’s the catch: those 25% who will have sex either way now don’t know about other contraceptive and STI protection methods, except for the few who hear about it from other uneducated teens or research it online. So instead of 50/100 teens having sex and 10/100 getting pregnant, you have 25/100 having sex but 20/100 getting pregnant.

        These are obviously example stats, but the logic holds.

  • Shoppgirl2001

    This story is outrageous.      No one should be able to force anyone into killing a wanted child.

  • Reba

    I got pregnant at 14 and my mother a religious leaders tried to tell me to get an abortion.  Is is a decision the mother has to live with the rest of her life, not her parents or extended family.  If they think she isn’t a fit mother they need to wait until that baby is born to decide that and call CPS if appropriate.

    • Sherill

      Im curious as to why you say call CPS instead of her parents and others  encouraging her maybe to choose adoption?  

  • Sherill

    This is such a sad situation. My heart goes out to this young girl who now has a decision to make. And clearly not much support. Hoping that she does give life to this baby. What will she do next? Will she parent? Then I wonder, how can a 14 year old parent? Will she choose adoption? My stomach sinks at the thought of a 14 year old having sex let alone parenting. I just hope that the judge, lawyer, doctors and who ever else is involved with this girl and her pregnancy will help her make decisions that will only brighten her future.  

  • Jimnliz

    I know a lot of situations. I had 7 children of my own, I know the types of questions going through minds as such a time. I know the poverty, and I know the suffering of the women thinking that abortion is an ends to a problem. When the truth is God said thou shall not kill it was for a reason! All commandments are meant to make a person feel good about thier life and thier selves! abortion is so harmful I met those who told me it ruined thier life! they don’t tell you that at the clinics, they take your money and you will suffer, in ways I can only pray that you won’t ever other bitter answer to this hard and serious choice is a lie, and will end in suffering! All sin ends in suffering here, and then is carried on to the after world by the choice that people choose where they want to go after death by how they lived! We should never miss the chance at heaven for the world and it’s pleasures! or it’s easy road, but try and walk the narrow road and pick up our cross and deny ourselves, so others on this earth can also be happy! and have a chance at life!

  • Jane

    Um, ask any pro choice person whether or not this 14 year old should be allowed to make her own reproductive choices and they will be in agreement that yes, yes she is the only person who should be able to say what happens to her body for the next 9 months and whether or not she wants to terminate the pregnancy, parent, or choose adoption is hers alone.  This editorial is a joke. Although, when I was much younger I saw the world as black-and-white and was also anti choice just like you.  Now that I am older I appreciate that peoples’ lives are more complex and that women are faced with these difficult decisions that only they can make.  Therefore, it takes more compassion to respect the mothering choices women make for themselves than shoving pictures of late-term aborted fetuses in their faces. Trying to stop women from having abortions is a waste of your energy.  Focusing on systemic poverty, lack of sex education and other social ills instead of shaming women for their difficult decisions would be a better use of your time.   If more pro-lifers did this, I would gladly work side by side with them in their efforts.  

    • http://twitter.com/MarauderTheSN Marauder

      Have you ever asked someone who was almost aborted if they think trying to stop women from having abortions is a waste of energy?

      • Nana

        Ask me! I could easily have been aborted. My mother terminated her first pregnancy because she was very young and it was with someone who she could not trust to be a good father. She considered aborting me, because she was still very young and didn’t have much in the way of means to support a child, but ultimately she ended up not doing it. I think trying to stop women from having an abortion is sexist and horrifying. If my mother had decided to abort me, that would have been just fine–I wouldn’t have cared, I would have been an unthinking bundle of cells. I’m glad that my mother lived in a world that valued her body and life enough to prioritize it over a clump of cells, therefore making her able to get that first abortion. Of course I’m glad that she ultimately did not have an abortion, because I like being alive, but I wouldn’t have known the difference if she had.

        Obviously, not every person who was almost aborted will say the same thing, but don’t assume that we all agree with your opinion.

        • http://twitter.com/MarauderTheSN Marauder

          I’m glad you like being alive. I’m just sorry that your older sibling, and so many other people, didn’t live long enough to be able to say the same.

      • Anacoluthia

        I was almost aborted and I think trying to stop women from having abortions is shameful, profoundly immoral, and sexist to boot.

  • Gtfo

    this is hilarious, not the story, but the way you write so ignorantly i love the wild and irrelevant accusations, and silly terminology like “anti life”, because clearly we hate life just as much as you don’t wanna feed babies. don’t you think(?) that it might have something more to do with the idea that pro choicers feel it’s not a baby yet? pro choice doesn’t mean we hate babies, we just want to be able to take care of the ones we have, and we respect a womens right to choose, unlike you, once it’s born it’s not your problem. lady it’s difference of opinion, these people are not pro choice, they are crazy, they fall into a different category we like to call abusive. so sit down and stfu.

    • http://twitter.com/MarauderTheSN Marauder

      You can “feel” it’s not a baby all you want, but that doesn’t change the truth.

      • Guest

        It isn’t  baby

        • Anonymous

          The term “fetus” is what the medical community uses as technical jargon to refer to the unborn who are 7 weeks or older (women don’t usually find out they’re pregnant until 6 weeks, and most abortions are done between 7 and 9 weeks). Fetus means “young one”, or baby in Latin. So, yes, according to the  medical terminology, it is a baby. 

          There is a type brain tumor that is called a medulloblastoma by the medical community, but are when you talk about it with those who are not part of the medical community, are you going to call it a medulloblastoma or a brain tumor?

    • Anonymous

      Sorry, but we’re not going to sit down and “stfu” or “gtfo”. We do want to help those who are born, otherwise we wouldn’t have pregnancy care centers, also known as crisis pregnancy centers. PCCs provide food, shelter, clothing, baby items, child care, medical services, parenting classes, job training and recommendations, education resources, etc. to women, their children, and families. Please do your research before throwing around accusations.

      As for the right to choose, the choice comes when you have sex. The reason for sex is procreation. If you don’t want to procreate, don’t have sex. However, there is another way: if you took advantage of the Natural Family Planning classes at the PCCs, you would see that it’s possible to have sex and not get pregnant.

      Also, fetus, the medical term used for the unborn, means “young one”, or baby in Latin.

  • Charlotte

    The majority of pro-choice people I know are equally as sickened by this article. Choice means CHOICE, not aborting foetuses (yes, British spelling) left right and center. Forced abortions are just that, force.

  • Nedariko

    It’s not called pro abortion, it’s pro choice
    If she wants to have a child or abort i don’t care, as long as she has both options to choose from

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=695554772 Mat Neff

    “Well, you should have thought about that when you were shoving “Glee” episodes, Beyonce videos, and condoms in your kid’s face.” It was this sentence that lost all credibility for me. Couple it with ““Keep it in your pants, or else.” I know all the words for this: antiquated, Paleozoic, silly, unrealistic! It is also 100% effective. ” and I have no desire to share this with anyone. Studies have proven time and time again that abstinence only sexual education is far less effective than abstinence and contraceptive education. Obviously this girl didn’t have too many condoms being shoved in her face. No amount of “Glee” hating will change the facts about abstinence education being proven to not be 100% effective.

  • Elly-Rose

    I’m Pro-Choice. And I support this girl if she wants to keep her baby. Pro-Choice means “a woman’s right to choose” not “a woman’s family/husband/boyfriend/other’s right to choose” what her family is doing is wrong and I hope she can get the support she wants and needs from elsewhere.

    However, I do want to point out one thing, if this girl was suing for the right to have an abortion against her families wishes, would the so called “Pro-Life” support her? Even if she was being beaten and abused the same as she is now? Would they say she could have the abortion? Or would the rights of her family and foetus outrank her own rights?

  • Nana

    Pro-choice people will, in general, agree that this girl is undergoing something terrible. Very few people in this world advocate forcing someone to have an abortion, and if they do, they are not pro-choice. Pro-choice means that we believe abortion should be a legal, and that it should be easy to access, so that if someone wants an abortion, they should have that as a choice. Adoption, and keeping the child, should also be choices–but sometimes that last option requires immense support from the government to be sustainable, because poor women get pregnant, too. I am adamantly pro-choice. I always have been, I always will be. However, I think this girl’s parents are being abusive and awful. This is not pro-choice behavior, this is anti-choice. No one who does not want an abortion should be forced to have one, just like no one who wants an abortion should be forced to continue a pregnancy. The key word is CHOICE. I am horrified for this girl, and I hope she gets to give birth to her child–but if she wanted an abortion, I would hope she could obtain that, too. For every story like this I’ve heard ten about girls who are forced to give birth when they don’t want to, and that is just as awful.

    Also, your anti-sex-education comments are disturbing to me. “They’re going to do it anyway” IS a valid argument. Having sex is not comparable to murder or rape. Murder and rape are never acceptable activities, sex often is. It’s like comparing eating something you “shouldn’t” to doing hard drugs–one is often appropriate, but you should be educated as to how and when it is, the other can and often will destroy your life. Drawing a comparison between the two is disingenuous and just plain wrong.

    Not educating about sex doesn’t make it go away, it’s hardwired into our genes to do it. All not educating does it make sure that it’s a scary, dangerous experience that it happens, rather than a fun, safe, empowering one. Teenagers from all backgrounds have sex, but who has it better? The girl who has idea what she’s doing and doesn’t know what she can do to protect herself from getting pregnant or getting an STI, and who’s afraid to discuss any issues that come up with her parents, the people who are supposed to protect her? Or the girl who is educated to know how to handle sex in a safe and mature way–using a condom to protect herself from a pregnancy she isn’t ready for, and from diseases she will never want–and who can turn to her parents for help when something goes wrong? It’s not shoving a condom in a kid’s face, it’s telling them that a condom is something they need if they have sex. A child who is educated about sex may decide she’s not ready for it, and she may decide that she is, but a child who is not educated about it doesn’t have the tools to make that choice. That doesn’t mean she’ll abstain, it just means the sex she has will be more dangerous.

  • John Platts

    I believe that it is really wrong for the parents to force this girl to have an abortion. The abortion can put this girl’s life and health in danger. Many women have suffered serious health complications after an abortion, and women have actually died as a result of legal abortions. Many women who have aborted their babies have regretted their decision to abort. Abortions increase a woman’s risk of breast cancer. Some women have lost their fertility as a result of abortion. Even if the cost of the abortion procedure appears to be cheap, the abortion can actually end up costing a lot of money. This girl’s parents really need to know that abortion is not harmless and is really risky. This girl is better off giving up her baby for adoption. The court needs to recognize that abortion is not harmless and needs to protect this girl’s baby from being aborted.

    • Letscook1

       Giving birth is 10x more dangerous to a woman than an abortion. Especially a young girl. Giving birth used to be one of the number one forms of death for women.

      That being said I do believe it is the girl’s choice. Forcing her to have an abortion is tantamount to rape.

  • Monica Falullah

    I’m pro-choice, and I very much support her right to choose. If she wants to keep her unborn, then that’s her choice, and it should be protected. I resent the statement that pro-choice people aren’t concerned about this because she is choosing life. I passionately fight for the right to choose, no matter what choice someone makes. 

  • Kitty

    Third, that the “pro-choice” blogs are staying very quiet about the case. So much for choice!

    BECAUSE IT WASN’T HER CHOICE YOU MORONS

    She wanted to keep it and she was being forced to abort it!
    It’s the same thing as wanting to abort it and being forced to keep it!!

    Pro-Choice means YOUR CHOICE in the matter. NOT your choice to ALWAYS ABORT IT.

    That poor girl…

  • Goddammit

    I’ve seen a large number of pro choice tumblogs  post about this story actually, wishing the girl the best. Also it kind of disgusts me someone would take a personal story about human rights like this and use it to spew all this hate at a group. Best wishes to the girl, shame on you reporter.

  • Kimberly Wedel

    Why are there so many pro-abort anti-lifers posting on here? We all know your point of view. You want responsiblilty-free sex so bad that you are willing to kill babies for it. You are all depraved, morally corrupt, liars. There are an abundance of pro-“choice” sites for you to spew your hatred. Why don’t you stay off of the pro-life sites and stay are your own where you can all try in vain to convince yourselves that your deluded views are right?

    • Anonymous

      Wait just one moment missy. If you were truly pro life in all aspects you would gladly welcome pro choice people coming to this site. Isn’t having the chance to change someone’s mind or at least make them more aware, something you should embrace? And by the way, you are making a very broad judgment that is very hypocritical. 

  • Pro-Choicer


    There was a time when a 14-year-old girl having sex would have been completely unacceptable. And it happened a lot less. Why?Because it was completely unacceptable.”

    You’re right in that statement because back in the day, girls were actually around 13-years-old when they were married off and had sex. Pro-Choice supports this girls choice to keep it, all the bloggers I know are saying so and they’re big names. Please conduct more thorough research before posting such idiotic articles.

  • Opinions are like a**holes

    As a pro-choice woman, I do believe in this girl’s right to have her baby if she wants to. I pray that she understands what all goes in to raising a baby and doesn’t expect her family to help her take care of it. It is not their responsibility to do so, as it was also not her parents’ fault that she got pregnant in the first place. I hate to break it to you all but–teenagers have sex. Every day. Probably every minute. Even good, smart, honor roll members, student body presidents, Habitat for Humanity house-building, homeless feeding, puppy rescuing, CHRISTIAN teens have sex! *Gasp and clutch your pearls here* 

  • guest

    you do realize no mater what you think, even if you think its not alive until out of the womb; IT’S STILL MURDER because no mater what that would have a life and if you think abortions okay… no comment

  • shannon

    There are many issues here that people seem to forget.  I am prolife, however, what right do I have to make someone do something against their belief.  We need compassion for this young teenager.  The first, does the father of the baby have any rights.  I know that a women carries the baby, I just wonder if the father is taken interest in the unborn child?  Not only that , how will this affect the young women’s sanity?  I lost a baby girl back in 2009 but there were problems.  I hemorrhaged everyday for thirteen weeks the doctor wanted me to abort.  He said I was at risk.  I said no I wanted for it to happen naturally, eventually it did .  I was distraught and still have difficulty being around pregnant women especially those who smoke or drink.  My point is this , Why cant she have the baby and give it up for adoption?  It will still be difficult but at least the child would be able to live.  The heart starts beating at three weeks gestation.  I believe forcibly killing a child that has furthered in development is clearly murder.   WHere are our values>  Does this baby have rights?  After all,  there are people who cause wrecks which harm unborn children.  As a result they are charged, so why does this baby not have rights?   We need to be compassionate to this young women and for the life of her unborn child.  How far along is the mother

  • http://www.facebook.com/dani.cnelson Danielle Nelson

    I am Pro-Choice. This girl has the right to have her baby. It’s disgusting that her parents would force her to have an abortion. No girl, no woman, no one should ever be forced to make a decision that is not in their heart.
    I don’t know how other people who claim to be pro-choice feel about this but I feel like this girl has the right to make a CHOICE about her own future and her own body. If her decision is to carry out nine months of pregnancy and give birth she should be able to. The fact that she was assaulted by a family member is awful and I’m glad she is now being protected. It’s very hurtful that a family that most likely did not offer her information on sexual protection and contraception is now forcing her into a choice she doesn’t want to make. 

    I know many people who label themselves as pro-life want to think that people that label themselves as pro-choice just want to destroy fetuses or something – but that is not the case. When I label myself as pro-choice I really mean that I believe all girls and women should have just that – a choice to carry out a pregnancy or not – and the ability to have control over their own reproductive system.  

  • http://www.facebook.com/dani.cnelson Danielle Nelson

    I am Pro-Choice. This girl has the right to have her baby. It’s disgusting that her parents would force her to have an abortion. No girl, no woman, no one should ever be forced to make a decision that is not in their heart.I feel like this girl has the right to make a CHOICE about her own future and her own body. If her decision is to carry out nine months of pregnancy and give birth she should be able to. The fact that she was assaulted by a family member is awful and I’m glad she is now being protected. It’s very hurtful that a family that most likely did not offer her information on sexual protection and contraception is now forcing her into a choice she doesn’t want to make. 

    I know many people who label themselves as pro-life want to think that people that label themselves as pro-choice just want to destroy fetuses or something – but that is not the case. When I label myself as pro-choice I really mean that I believe all girls and women should have just that – a choice to carry out a pregnancy or not – and the ability to have control over their own reproductive system.  

  • http://www.facebook.com/dani.cnelson Danielle Nelson

    I am Pro-Choice. This girl has the right to have her baby. It’s disgusting that her parents would force her to have an abortion. No girl, no woman, no one should ever be forced to make a decision that is not in their heart.I feel like this girl has the right to make a CHOICE about her own future and her own body. If her decision is to carry out nine months of pregnancy and give birth she should be able to. The fact that she was assaulted by a family member is awful and I’m glad she is now being protected. It’s very hurtful that a family that most likely did not offer her information on sexual protection and contraception is now forcing her into a choice she doesn’t want to make. 

    I know many people who label themselves as pro-life want to think that people that label themselves as pro-choice just want to destroy fetuses or something – but that is not the case. When I label myself as pro-choice I really mean that I believe all girls and women should have just that – a choice to carry out a pregnancy or not – and the ability to have control over their own reproductive system.  

  • http://www.redstateeclectic.typepad.com AngelaTC

    “How about the simple fact that it was a failure on the part of the parents that this child got pregnant in the first place? ” – And there’s the rub.  If we love babies, and life, why is this a finger-pointing game about who is to blame?  She’s having a baby – either we celebrate that unconditionally, or we’re feeding into the pro-choice “babies are a burden” sentiment.

  • Amy Mayedo

    Speaking as a staunch pro-choicer, I completely support this young woman’s decision to carry her pregnancy to term.  I hope she is mentally and financially stable enough to provide for her  health and well-being, as well as the child’s.  If she is not, the family is still in the wrong for the actions they have taken against her.  Hopefully the father will be supportive as well.  

    Her family was wrong to pressure/threaten her into a decision she did not want to make and should have *at least* considered alternatives like adoption.  
    It’s unfair that the author of this article is making sweeping generalizations about all pro-choicers.  The article is poorly written with fallacious and uninformed arguments/points.  The author is also uninformed about the effectiveness of abstinence in pregnancy prevention.  

  • Meghan Ciara Burnett

    I think this girl is right to sue her family. It’s better to send the baby to adoption then to kill it when it doesn’t even have a chance. Besides, her family is trying to make her break one of  The Ten Commandments, “You shall not kill”. God will provide for her if she desperately wants it or if what she’s doing if right in his eyes.

  • Sara Rudd

    Abortion clinics do not support choice…they support whats convenient for them

  • Gn4kids

    Kristen Walker, thank you for your post. I agreed with
    practically everything you said, it was informative and was well put, however I
    did not like with your advice to “keep it in your pants, or else” .
    My reason for disagreeing is this; I think parents/guardians should educate
    their children about the pleasure of sex and why they should wait to share it
    with only their spouse.

     

     So many people go to
    the extremes; telling their kids that anything goes, not telling them anything
    that they should know, or threatening…why can’t parents educate their kids on
    the dangers of some activities and the rewards of others? I am grateful that my
    parents didn’t say “You better not have sex or else…”, because I
    would have responded negatively, most people do not wish to be ordered around
    like that.

     

     Tell your children
    what is right and wrong, what’s healthy and unhealthy, guide them. Teach them
    that they can have power over their bodies, they need to be taught
    responsibility for themselves, but remember that in the end they will choose
    for themselves. I want to teach my future children that sex is not just
    fulfilling your own desires, but it is a gift that you can save to give to your
    future spouse.

     

     I really hope this
    young 14-year-old girl is allowed the right she should already have.

  • Sparksfly0458

    Having a baby has great benefits to most people, even teenagers. 

    Though it’s not necessarily the ideal way to go through life, it can help girls to grow up, be responsible, learn to care for someone else, stop being selfish like everyone else is in this country. Furthermore – all of you pro-choicers – having a baby is not always a burden, it’s not always going to ruin a person’s life or the child’s life, and how can you know that it will until the child gets a chance at life? 

    I know I gave my daughter a chance at life when I was 19 in college, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. 

    Was is hard a lot of the time? Yes. 
    Did it make it more difficult to finish college? Certainly. 
    Did I feel like wanting to quit sometimes? For sure.
    Did I feel like an inadequate mother at times? Yeah.
     
    Would I have been better off without my beautiful, precious daughter? Hell NO. 

    I was a single mother. I waited tables and worked my way through, and didn’t give up on my education and didn’t give up on my child whom I love so very much. Great things can come from the unexpected realities we find ourselves in. I don’t think it’s fair to say that a child you don’t know does have a right to life like you and I do. 

    The First Amendment should protect our right to life, even if we are in the zygote, embryo, or fetal stage – it’s still a human life. We don’t go killing kids that are in abusive homes, no, we go help them find a better home and nurture them to grow into great human beings. There are still good people out there making a difference and helping others. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/theonewithkids Mike Evans

    geez i’d say your education is more important don’t ruin your life

  • narniagirl55

    What happened to this girl! I have had her in my prayers and I would like to know what happened to her! Did she get to keep her baby? and did they find a safe place for her to live.

  • Heavenhawkins17

    i think all of you are stupid. abortion should be illegal. the fetus is a baby to and all of you who think that its ok you are sick

  • Leiapeison

    this is horrible. if she wants to keep it, she should be able to. if she wants to abort, she should be able to. pro choice all the way

    • liveaction

      We should never be allowed to *choose* to kill and innocent person. If we believe in that choice, we support the choice of death forced on another person.

  • Makebetter choices

    Well I will get trashed for this but I don’t care: for me this isn’t pro choice or pro life, this is a 14 year old who can in NO WAY take care of herself and certainly cannot take care of a child. I would be furious if my 14 put me in this position. You can’t make a kid NOT get pregnant. You can try to raise them well and teach them well, but in the in they do whatever the Hell they want.

    I don’t agree with any violence against this girl, but since a 14 year old can’t even sign a mobile phone contract, I am not sure she should get the say about having a child that she will not be the one who has to care for it and pay for it and be up nights taking care of it. It was horrendously selfish on her and the fathers part to get pregnant, and now she wants to play grown up with her lawyer.

    And to the 15 year old who commented on here that she is raising HER child, I call bulls*t!. You are NOT raising your child. All the adults around you are raising your child while you pretend to play house. They are the ones staying awake nights wondering how to make ends meet, not YOU!

    This is pure selfishness. The least the 14 year old should consider doing is giving her child up for joint adoption where she can be part of its life, but let a family who can’t have kids and who are willing, should the financial responsibility. She sounds like a brat to me who will undoubtedly get pregnant again just for the attention…

    I am a woman and at 14 I was responsible and not only thinking about myself. At 16 I had a full time job and helped my parents with bills. Kids are more and more selfish every year!

    Let the hatred comments begin against me…won’t matter because I won’t be reading them.

  • Olivia

    This article is so bias and so poorly written that I couldn’t even finish reading it.

    • Olivia

      Also why is this 14 yo pregnant in the first place? Why wasn’t she taught about contraception and safe sex? Furthermore, who the heck is going to raise that baby once its born? Sure as hell not the 14 year old girl. Most likely, that baby will either A) end up being raised by a child who belongs to a family that doesn’t want anything to do with the baby, in essence, fucking up that baby’s life, or B) end up being put up for adoption and becoming part of “the system” full of corrupt people looking out for their foster care checks and in essence, fucking up that baby’s life. Who exactly is going to care for the well-being of that baby when her 14 year old mother’s well being is not being taken care of?

  • http://twitter.com/ocngrlJ Jill S

    pro choice is NOT about being pro abortion…..this is the perfect case scenario that proves just that.

  • Mary

    I don’t understand how pro-choice blogs not making this a big deal makes them pro-abortion. She is choosing to keep the baby and women do that EVERY DAY. They are concerned about when a woman chooses to terminate a pregnancy and they are not allowed to or branded with a scarlet letter. Also, the whole abstinence is the answer for teenagers getting is a load of crap anyway. Humans are sexual beings and just because society deemed them children until they are 18 doesn’t make that a biological reality. You can teach abstinence by educating, but you have to accept the reality that you cannot lock a teenager in a tower until they are 18 and expect them to go out and make good choices without educating. I am pro-choice. She is choosing to have this child and I don’t think her family should be allowed to force her to have an abortion. I also think she needs help setting up a good support system during and after the pregnancy, since she clearly doesn’t have one. That is true regardless of whether she keeps the child, gives it up for adoption, or any other choice she makes.