Coin Toss Abortion? Why Our Protracted National Tolerance For Abortion Must End

I’ve been struggling for days trying to figure out how to write about Ruth Padawer’s article in the New York TimesThe Two-Minus-One Pregnancy.”

What made it hard, I think, to start was my complete inability to grasp the moral universe where the people described in this article are coming from. Story after story of women who, having invested so much energy and money into getting pregnant in the first place, decide to kill off one of the twins they are carrying, supposedly so they can provide the surviving twin with a higher quality of life.

Welcome to the world Roe has created, I thought. A world where children simply do not matter. A world where the only thing that matters in the end is what adults want.

It’s probably too much to hope, but I can’t shake the desire to see in this story the beginning of the end of our protracted national tolerance for abortion.

Think about it — rewind the clock — can you imagine if Roe v. Wade had made abortion legal because one of the women described in this article desired to kill one of her unborn twins? Abortion was forced upon this country and made legal in all 50 states because of horror stories. Women who had been raped by their father. Women who would surely die in childbirth (their doctors testified) if they were made to carry the baby through until birth.

But these horror stories (and many of them were just that, stories) were not what Roe fixed. Roe gave us this: “coin toss” abortions, where one twin lives and one twin dies simply because one twin is closer to the abortionist’s needle.

This is another aspect of the world that Roe and legalized abortion-on-demand has given us: moral illiteracy. How else to describe journalists being able to write 5,000 words about Coin Toss abortions, complete with mentions of the “Mount Sinai Medical Center” and the “National Institute of Health” and never, not once, not even once, mention the one glaringly-obvious ethical question in the heart of the debate: “isn’t this murder?”

The author, who is careful to ignore (or maybe couldn’t even realize she was ignoring) this foundational question still manages to evoke the question as she describes the emotional trauma felt by some associated with this barbaric practice:

The doctors who do reductions sometimes sense their patients’ unease, and they work to assuage it. “I do spend quite a bit of time going through the medical risks of twins with them, because it takes away a little bit of the guilt they feel,” says Stone, the Mount Sinai doctor. Sometimes, she says, couples disagree about whether to reduce a twin pregnancy, and she encourages them to see a therapist so they can be at peace with whatever they decide.

Guilty? Therapy? Why would people harbor such feelings after undergoing a “reduction” surgery? Do people experience guilt and sadness after undergoing a stomach fat reduction? Something else entirely is happening here:

One of Stone’s patients, a New York woman, was certain that she wanted to reduce from twins to a singleton. Her husband yielded because she would be the one carrying the pregnancy and would stay at home to raise them. They came up with a compromise. “I asked not to see any of the ultrasounds,” he said. “I didn’t want to have that image, the image of two. I didn’t want to torture myself. And I didn’t go in for the procedure either, because less is more for me.” His wife was relieved that her husband remained in the waiting room; she, too, didn’t want to deal with his feelings.

Torture? Avoidance of dealing with feelings? How lost these people are!

“How do we help make these people less lost?” I wonder, and still struggle with. A part of me feels overwhelming sympathy towards these parents who are so blinded, so self-deluded in their choices. But another part of me is angry. So angry, because their choices — whether selfish, ignorant, or more likely, a combination of both — are killing children. Real children. Right now.

Imagine what will happen to these children, these siblings of aborted brothers and sisters, when they grow up. Most of the parents interviewed in this story say they intend to hide their choice to kill off one of their twins from their friends and family. Shame on them. Abortion has gone on for so long because the victim never has a chance to speak. These children who have survived the abortion of their twin (or twins) have a voice already – ours.

Let’s talk about the reasons given for Coin Toss abortions. The cop-out used by almost all the parents interviewed in this article is that they choose to kill one of their children to provide a better life for the surviving twin. They’ll be able to be better parents, they say, if they have to parent less children. There’s a word to describe this, and it refers to something found at the bottom of bull’s stall.

Because guess what? Life isn’t planned. And if these parents truly believed that the quality of life of their children was dependent purely on their ability to focus on them completely, then instead of daycare for their children they should do what the Romans did – leave them out in the forest to be eaten by wild animals. The only difference between infanticide, and abortion in these cases of “twin reduction”, is when the child is chosen to be killed, not why.

Pro-aborts always try to force pro-lifers to justify not allowing abortion in cases of rape and incest. As Rick Santorum recently demonstrated, pro-lifers have a beautiful response to this attack. The truth is on our side, even in hard cases.

It’s time for pro-lifers to turn the tables. We must force pro-abort zealots to defend twin reduction abortion. To defend Coin Toss abortion. This is what Roe has wrought. It’s time for them to own it. It’s time for us to own it. So that together as a nation, we can disown the destruction of innocent human life.

We can’t afford to let innocent life remain up to chance.

UPDATE: William Saletan at Slate gets so much right when he writes:

… the main problem with reduction [i.e., Coin Toss abortion] is that it breaches a wall at the center of pro-choice psychology. It exposes the equality between the offspring we raise and the offspring we abort.

… Reduction destroys this distinction [between wanted and unwanted babies]. It combines, in a single pregnancy, a wanted and an unwanted fetus. In the case of identical twins, even their genomes are indistinguishable. You can’t pretend that one is precious and the other is just tissue. You’re killing the same creature to which you’re dedicating your life.

… That’s the anguish of reduction: watching the fetus you spared become what its twin will never be. And knowing that the only difference between them was your will.

[Cross-posted at CatholicVote.org]

  • Anita

    Thank you Thomas for your well argued points. Unfortunately, in the world of “pro-choicers” our arguments fall on deaf ears. Thank you also, as I must be living under a rock…I hadn’t heard of the “coin toss” abortion issue. Like you, I cannot even begin to understand the “moral universe” these people are living in.

    Thank you, Lila and all of you “youngsters” for doing what us gen x people have failed to do…get the word out about the murder rate in this country. When murder rate calculations are done, every single life taken thru abortion must be included in the tally….

    God bless you,
     

  • Wfranklin

    Absolutely amazing.  As the father of (now 13-year-old) identical twin sons, I cannot conceive of not having them both with us.  They are unique individuals, with their own preferences, hopes, dreams and aspirations.  Who am I to decide the value of either boy, in society’s, but more importantly in God’s eyes?  There are many societies (and religions) in the world who place a low value on human life; let us not become one of them.

  • Seanzi

    Thank you for posting such a clear and articulate article. We must expose this issue. I’m sharing this today.

  • Anonymous

    2 thoughts came to mind as I read this…old testament pagan images of child sacrifice to “appease the gods” and Jesus turning over the tables of the money changers in the temple.
    The world is God’s house and us prolifers need to stop being afraid to overturn tables and expose things for what they are…abortion for the reason of “adult rights” is the stupidest thing in the world. What do these parents tell the child when they ask about their twin (most twins know they are “missing” something when the other twin is gone) How so you justify this when your twin finds out that they were the one “wanted” and their brother or sister” twin was not? I would be more afraid to face my child’s anger and wrath than worry about what my friends and famly think……..Just like Cain hiding from God after he killed Abel…truth is always revealed no matter how hard we try to hide it…A verse I have quoted many times to my own daughters “You can be sure your sins will find you out”….nothing is hidden from God. He sees all.

  • Lalasworld234

    This is so sad. Makes me cry everyday. I hope abortion becomes illegal. There should never be an excuse for killing innocent children. Most adults are so stupid, ignorant and selfish! I hate them for killing the little innocent children! Pro choice kills children! Duh! They need to do their research! 

  • Anonymous

    And pro-choicers say pro-lifers are the ones who base their beliefs on emotion, not science? Somebody please explain to me the BIOLOGICAL DIFFERENCE between the twin who is aborted (the “unwanted” one) and the one who is not (the “wanted” one) in the coin-toss abortion procedure?

    • Anonymous

      Excellent point. 
      The only difference is they call one a baby and the other a fetus.  One is wanted, the other is not.  One is a choice and the other is “just another choice.”

  • A.P

    I am a twin, reading the article from the New York Times made me sick. To think that myself or my beloved twin might not be alive today is indescribable. We have been together for every journey in our life, when she is not around I feel as though a part of myself is missing. I am sorry for the children whose parents are so selfish, that they took the joy of having a twin away from their child. Because that is just what being a twin is .. a joy .. an honor. To be that close with someone and to have that relationship can compare to none. I would give up a lavish life-style just to ensure my twin stay intact. But a part of this monstrosity, is the parents choice leaves others with no choice at all. Selfishness like that is a sad way to live.

  • Andy

    Wow, just wow. I can’t believe such twisted logic that people go through to justify this. Even the term ‘coin toss’ has an air of unreality to it. 

  • Writebrain

    I read about a woman journalist in NYC who aborted two of her triplets “because we just don’t have room in our small apartment to raise them.”

  • ClaudiaS

    http://www.johnstonsarchive.net/policy/abortion/abreasons.html

    These statistics were last updated for 2008 but I doubt there is much difference in 2011!  98% of abortions were for “elective” reasons.  The other reasons were rape, incest, medical and fetal abnormality.  That means that 98% of these gals chose to spread their legs and get rid of any results rather than keep their legs shut!  SICK REASON to kill a child.

  • Guest

    As someone who is trying to get pregnant, I follow a website that provides tools to help track the cycle and hopefully have a better chance at getting pregnant. There are forums (message boards) to chat with other women doing the same. It is heartbreaking to read discussions of IVF or FET procedures when multiples are implanted and all make it to viability – and then they have “selective reduction” done to ensure the rest survive better. I wonder every day why these procedures are necessary (implanting multiples, hoping one sticks) and then how these women live with the “choice” of killing that which they have spent years hoping for. Infertility is a heavy cross, but why add death to the mix??

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  • Bobhaight333

    I wonder about the propaganda spread during WW II to brainwash the people to kill others in concentration camps and the massive killing performed in our own day.  I tend to think the Nazis were more civilized than us, as they killed far less. All life is precious and a gift from God!  As a country, we have butchered millions of babies, killed many more by the chemicals shoved down our throats, and sterilized many.  And then we teach our youth that sexual reproduction is nothing more than a recreational activity to be done on Frfiday and Saturday nites and as often as possible during the week.  No wonder sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) run rampant.  What has our society become?  We have lost the sense of sin and the realization that human life is sacred and a gift from God.   May God have mercy on us.

  • http://profiles.google.com/maraudertheslashnymph Marauder The Slash Nymph

    My grandfather was a twin. I think I can safely speak for his six children, thirteen grandchildren, and eight great-grandchildren (so far) and say that we’re glad he wasn’t aborted.

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