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Statistics reveal that fewer than 2% of women facing unplanned pregnancies choose adoption, while around 61% opt for abortion, often with mixed emotions.
Many in the pro-life movement question why adoption remains a less common choice. The reasons are varied, typically rooted in myths, misconceptions, and how adoption is perceived. Abortion is sometimes seen as the “easier” option compared to placing a child for adoption. However, these views are often shaped by misunderstandings, which can be addressed through better education and awareness.
Let’s explore some common reasons women may shy away from adoption, according to research from the Opt Institute and the National Council for Adoption (NCFA).
1. Confusion Between Adoption and Foster Care
Many women confuse adoption with foster care, assuming they are similar. In reality, voluntary adoption is entirely different.
In an open adoption, the birth mother is in control; she decides to place the child and chooses the family. In contrast, the foster care system is where the government steps in because of safety concerns, putting the child into temporary care.
In adoption:
• The birth mother selects the adoptive family.
• She can meet the family, receive updates, and visit the child.
• The child is placed directly into a permanent family, often from the hospital.
In foster care:
• Child Protective Services (CPS) places the child, and the birth mother has no say in where the child goes.
• Children in foster care often move between homes, leading to increased trauma.
Most mothers and children in voluntary adoptions report positive experiences because the process is thoughtful and intentional, unlike the sometimes traumatic nature of foster care.
READ: Love Them Both: 7 ways to support families investigating the adoption or foster care process
2. Concerns About the Child’s Well–Being
Many women are understandably concerned about placing their children with strangers, fearing their children may not be well cared for.
First, it’s important to acknowledge the mother’s focus on her child’s well–being and affirm her decision to choose life. Open adoption can help ease these concerns, as it allows the birth mother to stay informed about her child’s life through updates, photos, and visits.
Research from NCFA shows that most adoptees are satisfied with their adoption experience and believe it has positively impacted everyone involved. Providing accurate information about the adoption process, including the rigorous vetting of adoptive families and the benefits of openness, can help reassure women about their child’s future.
3. Influence from Family and Friends
A woman’s decision about her pregnancy can be heavily influenced by the opinions of her family, friends, or partner, even though they have no legal authority over her choice. Their influence can still be significant.
It’s crucial to remind women that the decision is theirs alone. If a woman feels pressured, it’s helpful to consider how supportive these individuals will be in the long run.
Ultimately, the choice must come down to what is best for her and her baby. While involving her support system is essential, connecting her with a trusted adoption agency can guide conversations and provide professional support.
The key is ensuring that women know they have more than one option to choose life and feel empowered to make the best decision for themselves, whether that’s adoption or another path.
For more information on adoption, contact Lifeline Children’s Services at pregnant@lifelinechild.org or visit planmyadoption.org.
